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Ask before using someone’s story

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Lesson 2 of 3 · about 7 minutes

Ask before using someone’s story

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What is it?

A story agreement identifies what a person wants shared, with whom, and in what setting.

Why would I need this?

Practice advocacy that does not use someone’s private life as a public example without agreement.

Show me.

  1. Explain the intended audience and format.
  2. Ask which details the person is willing to share.
  3. Offer a way to participate without a personal story.
  4. Confirm the agreed use before sending or publishing.

Try it.

Practice inviting someone to contribute to an invented community meeting without requiring them to describe incarceration.

Watch out for this.

Do not promise control over copies or redistribution that you cannot provide. Explain limits before publication.

Explain this another way

Focus on one small task: ask before using someone’s story. You can practice aloud, on paper, or with someone you trust.

Show me an example

HAB practice example: The invitation offers a general policy comment, an anonymous example if appropriate, or no participation.

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You did it.

You have practiced a useful next step. Repeat it if you want, or continue at your own pace.

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Lesson version 1 · editorial review 2026-09-12. General education. Individual requirements can differ.

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