What is it?
Follow the person’s stated preferences.
Why would I need this?
This practice helps you make your own next step clearer and easier to discuss.
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- Ask what help would be welcome.
- Offer a specific option that is easy to decline.
- Respect limits on contact and discussion.
- Ask before revisiting the subject later.
Try it.
Write a supportive offer that does not require forgiveness, reconciliation or disclosure.
Watch out for this.
Do not set a timetable for another person’s recovery.
Explain this another way
Try the exercise aloud, on paper, or with someone you choose.
Show me an example
HAB practice example: A friend offers to bring dinner and accepts that the person wants a quiet evening.
What does that word mean?
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You have practiced follow the person’s stated preferences.