What is it?
This exercise gives you room to decide what contact, if any, you want while respecting applicable orders and restrictions.
Why would I need this?
Separate your own choices from other people’s expectations about reunion or forgiveness.
Show me.
- Name the contact you do or do not want to consider.
- Check unclear restrictions through an appropriate professional or official contact.
- Tell a trusted supporter what help you want maintaining your boundaries.
- Review only when you choose; do not arrange contact through others to get around a restriction.
Try it.
Practice declining an invented request to attend a reunion: “I am not agreeing to contact. Please do not share my information or carry messages for me.”
Watch out for this.
A person’s return does not mean you owe a meeting, forgiveness, reconciliation, or a public response. No exercise here asks you to waive a boundary.
Explain this another way
Focus on one small task: decide your boundaries without pressure to reconnect. You can practice aloud, on paper, or with someone you trust.
Show me an example
HAB practice example: Someone declines a meeting and asks relatives not to share their address or pass messages.
What does that word mean?
Open the full glossaryYou did it.
You have practiced a useful next step. Repeat it if you want, or continue at your own pace.