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Agree on your role

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Lesson 1 of 3 · about 8 minutes

Agree on your role

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What is it?

Clarify what you have been asked to do.

Why would I need this?

This practice helps you make your own next step clearer and easier to discuss.

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  1. Ask the person what they want from your involvement.
  2. Name the specific task you can offer.
  3. Confirm what information you may share and with whom.
  4. Set a point to check whether that role is still useful.

Try it.

Write a one-paragraph role agreement in ordinary language.

Watch out for this.

An informal helper does not automatically have authority to represent someone.

Explain this another way

Try the exercise aloud, on paper, or with someone you choose.

Show me an example

HAB practice example: A supporter agrees to take notes, but the person will ask their own questions.

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You did it.

You have practiced clarify what you have been asked to do.

Related lessons

Separate facts from questions
Close the loop after helping

Put this lesson into practice

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Lesson version 1 · editorial review 2026-09-13. General education. Individual requirements can differ.

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