What is it?
A personal check-in asks how the current support arrangement is affecting your time and capacity, and what you want to change.
Why would I need this?
Give yourself a way to ask for support rather than waiting for every other need to be resolved.
Show me.
- Choose a regular moment to review how the arrangement is working for you.
- Name one thing that feels workable and one thing that needs adjustment.
- Identify a trusted adult or appropriate support service you can contact for your own needs.
- Choose one boundary, request, or schedule change to discuss.
Try it.
Practice saying: “I can help with this part, but I need to change this other part.” Use an invented situation.
Watch out for this.
You do not have to disclose your loved one’s private history to ask for support for yourself. If you feel unsafe, prioritize appropriate immediate help.
Explain this another way
Focus on one small task: make a check-in plan for yourself. You can practice aloud, on paper, or with someone you trust.
Show me an example
HAB practice example: Jordan realizes the evening calls are interfering with sleep and proposes an earlier check-in time.
What does that word mean?
Open the full glossaryYou did it.
You have practiced a useful next step. Repeat it if you want, or continue at your own pace.